After a breakup, many people are directly re-establish a relationship just to 'escape'. It is actually not going to heal hurt feelings, but it will make you more confused, and even hurt others.
'Escape' is not the proper way to deal with heartbreak. According to Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D., a psychologist who is also counselor relationship, after a breakup there are periods of transition and should pass on those times well before starting a new relationship.
"Make sure you're ready to start a new relationship after a breakup. Do not start a relationship when the conditions are not psychologically ready, because it could end up negative," said Jennifer, as quoted from Galtime.com.
There are ten signs if you are really ready to establish new relationships and not by reason of escapism. Make sure the following signs you have experienced before establishing new relationships.
1. You've passed at least 3-6 months, and no longer feel like need to get a new partner to survive.
2. You feel good enough in attitude
3. You feel confident
4. The feeling is steady, not sudden sad when I heard ex-lover's favorite songs
5. You can hear the opinions and criticism of others
6. What you do is no longer oriented to what other people think
7. You no longer care about the ex-lover, your emotions are too static when he heard his name.
8. When thinking about the past, you are grateful with the experience gained and can explain what you learned from a failed relationship. If you do not feel it and it appears regret or blame yourself, you're not ready.
9. You have a hobby and lasting friendships, and do not want to leave just because a guy.
10. Companions began to introduce you to a man, or ask you to find a partner. They can be the first to know when you're ready menjalai a serious relationship with all the risks.